After watching 13 reasons why, I came to see the light on this overlooked problem, cyberbullying. It’s a simple thing as enjoying someone on social media. It’s fun till it’s not. We all have, no matter how small or funny it is.
Truth be told, the person on the receiving end bears all the burden and pain of feeling unloved and above all, imagine the Low self-esteem issues s/he gets not forgetting the suicidal thoughts in mind.
An example closer to us is the famous Gait trolls. KOT or rather Kenyans on social media broke him to pieces. Ninja cried on national Tv lamenting how bad it felt and how much of a joke he has been made to look.
With the Meme trend on the rise, no one is safe… Kids, parents, artists politicians, Joshuas. Sarcastic truth though, some of the victims like trolls because it’s publicity but question is what of the non celebrity peeps facing bullying?
Going on social media to talk about politics too is a pretty example of self bullying. You ask how? You wake up browse through the platforms and see some ninja tarnishing your favorite politician’s name online. What do you do? Join conversation and start arguments and hurling insults. What do you gain apart from getting angry?
The popular Telegram. Yes you know where I’m going with this. As youths yes we get to have fun and I don’t think there’s a problem but the issue is the consequences of it. The expose channels for instance are part of the bullying.
That’s how they make money and you fuelling the business by providing them with the material are one and the same.
Are you part of this wave or do you want to be the change?
There’s this emerging trend from our female friends of classifying men or boys in relation to their pockets. Yes, that sponsor trend. We as the ‘small ‘ boys are pushed to a corner by girls of our age since we have nothing to give them financially. Consequentially, as our father figures are out chasing our beautiful born partners, the mother figures have also risen from their so called slumber and are all over the internet and entertainment spots eyeing the broke jobless ninjas of our generation.
This change of culture is evidently been embraced in our day to day lives as now the older women are marrying young guys and young girls are being married off to the older men.
Love has become an extinct word in our millenials’ dictionary. -Cera.
A few days ago we saw a 70yr old man marry an 18yr old girl in Nigeria. I don’t know about you but I don’t see any love in it.
Convenience is key nowadays and the youths of today don’t really care about the path they take, as long as they pop those ‘botis’in those big boy clubs and splash it all over social media. I mean this is a combination of mid life crisis participants and peer influenced high life perception on the youth of my generation meaning NO LOVE!
Both parties in my opinion are users and invaders of the general cycle of life. Like the young ladies and guys are leaving people of their age bracket for older guys who have the financial capacity to fuel their fun, ratchet lives and the older guys are there for fun. I don’t know but before I generalize everything and you bash me, I know that there’s the ‘age is just but a number‘ battalion who actually have genuine love for each other.
I believe that there’s love out there and it doesn’t matter who you love,broke or rich. What matters is what one gets from the relationship they are in. Hey! That’s my opinion again so question is ,do y’all think there can be pure love in a relationship without the money aspect coming in?
Let’s talk about police brutality today. We all have for different reasons been victims to our men in blue and their unrealistic behavior. We all know that they are there to serve and protect but do they really?
I for one would love to meet a cop at those hours of the night, who would just stop me, ask me if I’m okay and tell me to stay safe. That’s a long shot I know but is it possible? Nowadays people see cops or that cop car ‘mariamu ‘ and their instincts just tell them to run. Why?
Once you get nabbed by those arrogant, stone faced ninjas all you can afford to think of is bail money. It doesn’t matter the level of PR skills you have, that cop will rough you up in the name of security and public safety. Confidently flex their muscle and blatantly threaten to write all kinds of offences on your charge sheet just to show who is boss.
What’s your name? Who is your father? What are you doing out at night? Unataka kulala ndani gi-chana? Wapi kitambulisho? Nyinyi ndio mnahangaisha watu usiku kwa makona? Whether you are in that expensive suit or not, these questions will hit you.
Away from the wee hour sagas, look at the way they handle people in peaceful riots. We all remember the case of that young man who got roughed up by our so called security.
I mean, if I come to you for a permit to go and rant about an issue in the streets, the Kenyan way, why beat me up for it? I believe that we as citizens have the freedom of expression and since your job description is security, stick to it or rather join the tae kwon do or kick boxing team if you can’t resist the urge to throw punches and kicks.
I love our men in blue alright but should they be violent for respect? Is that a requirement in your training? Please enlighten us who to look up to for safety. We need to feel safe around you guys but it’s the other way around.
We all have witnessed the drama brought by the ‘men in green’ manning roadblocks at night ordering grown people to blow into a beeping incriminating device. Drivers jumping off moving cars or driving over spikes to avoid that hefty 100,000Ksh fine.
Last week revellers got relieved when the courts revoked the use of breathalysers,alcoblow by NTSA sighting it a violation of the traffic act. This relief wouldn’t last though as the authority stood its ground despite the ruling,typical Kenyan style.
NTSA has arrogantly defied the court ruling and increased vigilance on the roads as witnessed during the weekend against these, rogue drunk drivers.
Is bullying of drivers on our highways civil? I believe that not everyone on the road at 3am in the morning is stupid drunk. Where does all the money from the fines they drop on ‘offenders ‘ go? My opinion, I feel like its another pyramid scheme collecting in broad daylight. Where are NTSA awareness boards? Where are your advertisements on tv, radio?
Personally, I have been a recipient and not a victim of drunk driving on a near personal level and I believe that NTSA is a step closer to making our roads safer,but my concern is the way they handle people. We all know and have our rights and instead of harassing a section of people for cash and example setting, why not crank up on awareness?
I feel that for an institution like the National Transport and Safety Authority, I feel like the fact that it chose not to adhere to the court ruling too is a wanting image for the course they are fighting for. Like why should I appear to a court hearing to get my fine and you on the other hand brush off the court’s decision?
A few days ago there was a video of police officers killing some kids on the road. They were apparently suspected thugs who terrorized the life out of Eastleigh residents. They were on a robbery mission the police say. Personally I’m still disturbed by the broad daylight killings and the out right show of force by the flying squad police. The mixed reactions to this video show the different stands we all take on this matter.
Some people may say its justice served since one way or the other they have fallen victim to these gang related violent acts. Some feel that it is an example set for the gangs out there that it’s what they get for the evil deeds they have done. Activists on the other hand are of the opinion of Human Rights and alternative measures on situation.
I think that there’s a better and civil way to go about this though.
According to the Amnesty International Report released in October 2016, Kenya was ranked top in Africa. Top in Extra judicial killings. It had a crazy figure of 122 killings in Kenya alone,out of 177 cases in Africa.
Looking at the statistics, it’s really worrying. Mind you that was in 2016. I feel that it’s more worrying that these killings are perpetrated by the very people the public depends on. Yes, I agree that the gangs are a menace but these members are human beings like all of us. We don’t know what made them get into this life but I still feel that there’s a way they can be helped out of it.
Human Rights ought to be protected no matter the situation. Looking at it from a cops perspective, the gang members might have retaliated and they felt safer by showing force. Okay but what next?
The Eastleigh gang, super power will want to revenge their loss and that would mean that the people are not yet out of the woods. Just proving a point that instead of the public execution style of justice, why shouldn’t the authorities take a different rehabilitation approach?
But once again that’s my own opinion. What do you think?
Do you believe that justice delayed is justice denied or an opportunity for sound and reasonable handling of a societal problem?
2017. A very significant year in Kenya. It’s 5am queueing time…. Election year. As expected everyone is now a political analyst to their clueless friends, including me. We criticize every aspirant running for any democratic elected seat but that’s because we want the best leaders for us. I guess….
Kenyan elections have been known for their history making no doubt marred with ups and downs. No Kenyan can forget the most darkest time of all not excluding the Coup, terrorist attacks that spilled innocent blood…. The 2007-2008 Post Election Violence. A tough time for everyone who witnessed or fell victim of it.
That’s the time we all witnessed the darkness TRIBALISM carries. Friends, neighbors, Kenyans turning on each other just because of a mere excuse.. TRIBE and the dangerous SUPERIORITY COMPLEX. No need of going into details of what really transpired.. It’s a painful memory to forget.
The 42tribes in Kenya live in harmony with each other but I never get the change when it comes to elections. The superiority complex kicks in. Leaders we trust feel that they are better than their opponents and they in the end decide to carry with them in wars, ‘ their people ‘ This my good people isn’t the way to go anymore don’t you agree?
After election dust settles we again in unison decide that we should never again go back to such practices. Good decision right there and I applaud each and everyone of us for that. Slogans come up and we live by those slogans until….. The next elections. Again what we had fought so hard to extinguish is back. Verbal tribal wars, incitement and the complex. It’s election year so what? That doesn’t mean we have the right to once again refer to each other by our tribes.
Just the other day I passed through the famous Tom Mboya statue in Nairobi and I was shocked. I find a crowd gathered listening to some guy talking about our Riftvalley brothers and sisters. I detest tribe classification so I didn’t sit and listen to what the delusional guy was saying but I was shocked. The guts of this to stand in the middle of town and talk about how bad a certain tribe is and more shocking is the number of the audience. These guys are taking us back to Egypt. That land we as Kenyans never want to go back to.
As in why can’t we all practice our political enthusiasm and affiliations at the ballot? Support whichever side that tickles your fancy politically and keep to yourself about it? I stand as a proud Kenyan and detest what these paid goons out there are trying to do. We have had alot of bloodshed and suffering and some of our friends, neighbors are still going through the trauma and pain of what happened. Why return us?
Let’s all take a chill 💊 pill and practice our National Anthem and sobriety.. Remember that Kenya Ni Wewe Na Mimi!!!
On to serious matters now. For a while I’ve been doing a follow up on these NGOs that are constantly popping up in every corner of this country. I believe that each and every one of those organizations have a mission to accomplish and their work is clearly positive no complaints.
Then there are the organizations that are 100% fighting for the rights of our girl child. They’re vigorous in their activities be it CSR or peaceful protests for girls and women. Everywhere and everyone is fighting for the girls. Where do we as the Boy Child come in?
If you would allow me to go back in the days, a family getting male children was a joy in a community. The presence of a boy symbolized the continuation of a legacy, family name, a generation. A male child was also added security in a family. With the fathers away in the forest hunting, the boys are left to take care of the homestead, herding cattle, taking their younger sisters to the market and the stream. Boys were very important to a family as you can see.
Well as they say, things do evolve. Here I not only limit imagination to technology. I mean, the once pride of the family slowly became a burden to the same people who hailed them. How you may ask. It’s simple.. That strong boy turned man comes of age and decides that he too wants to get himself a family. Marriage. As a norm in many communities, the boy or man pays dowry to the girl’s family. This means that the bigger the number of boys, the more cows and goats the family needs to give out as dowry..
Boys were now viewed as a loss and people started embracing the girls that were fixed to the kitchen, house chores and children and they became a source of income for the family. True? Girls got prepped and pampered by their mothers for the eventual result. Look good and educated for the husband.
That was back then. Now the current situation is that NGOs are all armed guns blazing fighting for the human, social, economical rights of the girls and women. All out condemning early marriages for the sake of their education, condemning FGM acts countrywide. Before you decide to rule that I support FGM lemme make it clear. I DON’T SUPPORT IT.
My only question is where did our Boy Child go wrong? The community we live in now has abandoned the boys in all ways and ages. You disagree? Well okay lemme explain. There has always been statistics that are released in the education sector during major examinations. Current situation is that the girls have risen in number and performance against the dropping status of the boys.
We are happy that the girls are rising and doing better in class but where are the boys going? Going to families that have a humble struggling background for instance. This will mean that there’s the uncertainty of school fees. This will mean that the boys drop out of school and go back to the farm and livestock. Worse still, humble background and let’s say four kids, two boys and two girls. Here the boys will have to sacrifice their education for the sake of their younger sisters in the name of securing a bright future.
We see people contributing large sums of money to provide exercise books, pens and sanitary towels for girl schools. I mean let’s be serious here.. Does that mean that the boys in poor schools don’t use exercise books or the ball points? Well they don’t use sanitary towels alright but they use soap and towels right? The boy child is fighting alot of neglect issues but no one lifts a finger to right the wrong. The only thing they get is pressure from the parents with phrases like; ‘SOMA, PALE NJE HAKUNA HURUMA AMA CHA BURE ‘ <READ, OUT THERE THERE’S NO MERCY OR CHARITY ‘
The girls that are empowered, educated and employed will someday want to have their own families. So in this situation who do they meet? Remember those boys that dropped out of school for their sisters and are hustling out there doing odd jobs due to the only basic vowels they learnt in school ? Maybe she’ll be sympathetic towards the guy and decide to settle down with him but not because of what he can offer reasoning wise and financially but maybe the looks and masculinity to help out in the house heavy lifting. These are the same men out there that face husband battering from the original source no edits. To whom will he run to? Left right women empowerment programs. The only place he can go is the ‘maendeleo ya wanaume ‘ programme which again is all shadowed by the other million and one women empowerment organizations.
With all this neglect, the Boy Child is vulnerable and out on his own. This even with the constant presence of the parents who’ll by far pressure this young man oftenly leads to drugs. All eyes on him to be someone of value to the community pushes them to depression which is a crude ingredient for crime, drug abuse and final straw, SUICIDE. The ladies have received this attention from all over to an extent that the guys have to now work for them since they are the BOSSES
I don’t know. I might have my own displaced school of thought but I’m sure that this will relate to someone or even help the birth of a Boy Child empowerment program too. So many boys and men out there are going through alot and due to our EGOS would not admit or even talk about it but imagine it for a second that there was someone who you as a guy would go to with your problem and they rehabilitate you and boost your confidence. Just imagine how equal rights would apply right there.. They say life is a collage but BLACK AND WHITE is all we get…
Magical!!! It is that awesome feeling you get when you see or feel something out of this world. That’s according to my definition though.
I remember that day like it was yesterday. It was cold, too cold in fact. Tired I was due to the long hours it took by road to get there. WAH! Its quite a distance. Even worse, the sitting in traffic was torturing although it gave me ample time to look at the beautiful escarpment. It was a breathtaking scenery. I could not help but wonder what was really waiting for me.
Remember that childhood excitement you got when your parents announced that trip to the BIG city? That sleepless night you got just thinking about the city that you had only heard of. And the countless times you had to clean those small worn out black shoes in your closet. That was the thrill and excitement I felt on that day.
Finally we got to the falls.
Awesome! Magnificent! Wonderful! I couldn’t believe my eyes. Up-to-date, I cant explain the feeling I got upon seeing the scenery.
I was all smiles and all over the place; curios, the wooden platforms marked as viewpoints. I was out of control ha-ha. All that time wondering why the locals were all calm while I was too turned up. The roaring of the waters falling over 72 meters and pounding the big rocks at the base of the fall was just something else…
Walking down the hill into the thick bushes with confusing tracks , slippery rocks acting as staircases and not forgetting the countless warnings ; ‘’BEWARE OF MUGGINGS IF YOU WALK ALONE’’ ,all I could think of was how it would look like with sun rays shinning through the falls, water drops and the green thicket.
The reflection in the little pools of water in the cave was WOW; for lack of better expression!! I wished the moment would last forever or even better, become a caveman and just experience this beauty everyday (wild thought). I hope that the management will build a camping site there by the time I go back. Yes I’m planning to go back
Hectic as it was climbing up the rocks and the heavy breaths involved. All I could say is that the whole trip was worth it.
With time not on our side, I took the last photograph just thinking about the landscape and the beauty of the falls near the equator. My friends too could not contain their excitement.
This is definitely a place to visit again and maybe try out bungee jumping while at it, LOL just kidding.
I just felt native and wild. Well, I guess it comes with the place. Thompson Falls in Nyahururu, Laikipia County is definitely a place to visit again.
Since the beginning of time, man was created for the sole purpose of protecting his woman and providing for the family. But lately, the woman has now turned out to be the one needing that protection ironically from her own man. It gets to me seeing a woman cry all because of a man that claims to love but treats her like trash. I know it’s wrong because my Dad taught me better than to have woman cry out of pain I have caused her to go through.
Like C’mon. Y’all meet and profess your love for each other, the lady decides to overlook your ratchet past and maybe your low financial situation and moves in with you in the small room you call home and that you even struggle to pay rent, gives you her all, sacrifices the little cash she gets from her parents and does shopping in readiness of the rainy weather just incase so that you don’t sleep hungry.
What does she get in return? The sorry excuse of a guy unleashes his demons on her when he sees his situation improving financially. He feels that he got all the power over her and even sees it correct to hit her. Bruh! That doesn’t prove that you’re manly trust me. Instead it shows you as a hypocritical demon, childish and immature boy with low self-esteem and narrow or rather shady moral upbringing. I don’t care if I know you but I have to say it. The kids on the streets treat your woman with more respect than you do.
That woman in your house loves you if she hasn’t already stopped it and replaced the love with fear of her own life and uncertainty of her future. If you’re lucky she’ll ‘vumilia ‘ all the emotional and physical abuse that you moron put her through and give up everything for you despite her unhappiness of which you won’t even notice, BUT NOT FOR LONG!!
My quarrel also goes to that guy that has a woman in the house and is probably a Mum to his kids but makes her feel like trash and unworthy of LOVE. She stays at home maybe after quitting her well paying job or that education to take care of you and your kids. Instead of appreciating efforts and sacrifices of this selfless woman you shamelessly take the role of god and dictator in the house. god of the house my foot! Ordering her around the house and demeaning her status in the house in the presence of the kids she gave birth to. What example are you portraying to the kids goddammit!!
She cooks for you, does laundry, teaches your kids to love you despite the blows they witness you giving their selfless and helpless Mum. She gains weight from stress eating and the process of giving birth but instead of loving the poor woman, you make her feel like trash, fat, ugly and lower her self esteem to a point where she’s damaged beyond repair. Adding salt to the injury now that you have cash, you go flashing it to any Sheilas, Carols and whatever their names are since you consider them sexier and more beautiful than the woman you leave in the house taking care of everything else other than her own life.
Well, a woman needs to be loved and appreciated like she is. Yes they push our buttons but that’s what they’re meant to do, to keep you on your toes and tell you when you’re doing right or wrong. That same woman you deem worthless, ugly and other nasty words will one day decide she’s had enough of that crap and you’ll do nothing about it. You might also be lucky to ever see your kids ever again..
To all the lovely ladies out there reading this, please know your worth and don’t allow yourselves to go through all that BS for a non existent love. There’s always a man out there that sees you beautiful, sexy, strong and loves you for who you’re….